I have never talked openly before about my own journey as a Counsellor and Coach, or shared my own insights and thoughts, so I am really interested to hear what you think?
I offer my own ideas and experiences as a way of connecting to you, and in the hope that what goes on for me, might also resonate for you. I offer my own ideas and experiences in the hope that they might ignite something in you….
The wound is where the light gets in…(Rumi)
I see an obvious allegory in Rumi’s writing in the way Jesus faces pain with courage and yet still finds compassion for others. Of course different religions all offer allegorical tales pointing to the same basic truth – that pain is the path to growth. And if you see pain as your path to growth, you don’t try to bargain it away, or blame others, or pretend it’s not happening, but attempt to face painful experiences with the same courage and compassion…although I do want to say clearly at this point, when we feel traumatised, that is also the point at which most of us are in too much pain to have clear perspective.
I spent many years, angry at the start I had in life. Jealous of others that they had been given the gift of parents who loved them, who didn’t abuse them. I remember asking my therapist, “When will I stop feeling so angry?” (And that was already 8 years in). He answered simply, “I don’t know…..” read on